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A marriage changed by Jesus – Sheri Haun

May 19, 2009

Sheri Haun and her two awesome kids Reyn and Ralea, some of our nearest and dearest to the Bridge Family, lost their husband and father Steve unexpectedly a year ago.  But before Jesus took Steve home, he saved him and saved Sheri and Steve’s marriage in the process.  To put a cap on the Sacred Romance series, I wanted to share Sheri’s story about what happened in their marriage after Jesus saved Steve…

Two years after the birth of our son, God led us to Nashville.  I resisted moving as I don’t like change, but God just shut all the other possible doors and so we moved.  3 months after moving to Nashville, my husband accepted Jesus as his Lord and Savior – 8 years after we were married.  What a change in Steve…

  • He put others first
  • Shared his emotions
  • Began to be self-sacrificing
  • His family became more important than himself
  • He was more compassionate, forgiving, and loving

Steve started attending Bible studies, participating in Christian Leadership Concepts, and eagerly wanted to live for Jesus.  That’s not to say it was easy afterwards.  In fact, Satan attacked us more and more.  Steve always asked me why it was so hard for us – why if there was a God that we struggled so hard.  And did we ever struggle…To say our marriage was rocky is a gross understatement.  I was not a submissive wife, nor did he take on the leadership role for our family.  We struggled so much because we always thought we had to be right.  Our major struggles were with the sins of pride and truthfulness.  We struggled financially, emotionally and spiritually, and we were equally at fault.  We sought counseling from ministers, friends, therapists and were told we needed to divorce – that there was nothing left to resurrect in our marriage.  God kept slamming shut the doors on our attempts to divorce.  We finally decided that loving each other was a choice and commitment versus a good feeling. 

Only through our faith in God were we able to remain together as a family.  Through it all, God used both of us in different ways to help each other and others.  My husband was at his best serving God through sacrificially serving others – as a lot of you know from his time at The Bridge.  We continued to the very end to struggle with sin – especially with pride. Steve died a year ago on May 6, 2008.  And I miss him deeply.  Today, even after all we’ve been through, I don’t regret a moment of our decision to remain together.

So thankful for the witness to Jesus’ power that Steve leaves behind.  Thank you Haun family for your example!

9 Comments leave one →
  1. May 20, 2009 7:09 am

    Thanks for the reminder that marriage isn’t easy! Susan would, or should, be the first to Amen that one. (Being married to me is not easy) I remember well Steve’s sacrificial love of giving and doing for others and it is an example to all. I am married to someone who has that same gift. Something I wish I had more of.

  2. James permalink
    May 20, 2009 8:20 am

    I’m a long-time reader and first-time commenter. Just wanted to thank Sheri for writing this. I’ve never met you, but I needed to hear this today. It’s easy for me to forget that nothing is beyond repair in Jesus’ hands.

  3. May 20, 2009 9:14 am

    Sher, thanks so much for telling this incredible story. I know that everyone who reads this will be encouraged and challenged. I was.

  4. Serena permalink
    May 20, 2009 9:17 am

    Sheri, We are all so thankful for you and your family. I definitely miss Steve’s humor in Small Group. I never was able to tell if he was joking or not!

    Every marriage is worth saving. Ben and I have both been through divorces and divorce is just an awful word. We are so thankful for each other though and hope and pray that we never have to encounter that word again so matter how hard Satan attacks us and you are right – The stronger we become together, the more Satan attacks. We will fight the fight with Satan each day together knowing that Jesus is on our side!

  5. shelley permalink
    May 20, 2009 9:21 am

    I wish we had known your husband, Sheri. We came to The Bridge when his passing was still very fresh and I remember sensing the sadness among the body, and just how precious he must have been to all.

    Thank you for your honest and inspiring words. Life is not easy and marriage is hard and love IS a choice not a feeling — our marriage counselors concur with yours!!

  6. Sue permalink
    May 20, 2009 1:31 pm

    Sheri – thank you for sharing from your heart.

  7. Mary Bea permalink
    May 21, 2009 1:35 am

    Sheri, you’re openess, your marriage and your faith is an inspiration…thank you!

  8. Cindy permalink
    May 21, 2009 10:11 am

    Sheri: As usual, you are an inspiration to us all. Steve’s giving spirit was a lesson to us. The two of you were awesome together and what a great family you have. Thank you so much for being so open with us. Everything you said is so very true and encourages all of us to keep focused on ….”think on these things”.
    We love you!!!!

  9. Susan Howerton permalink
    May 21, 2009 10:21 am

    Thank you Sheri, for opening your heart and giving us wisdom from your pain and joys. It’s always strengthening to hear how God works in other people’s marriages. You’re so right that marriage is hard work but it’s so worth fighting for and you and Steve were a great example. Just look at your incredible, strong kids and you KNOW it was worth it. Your faithfulness to persevere together was an incredible testimony to your kids of the strength God can give and the importance of our obedience to Him. Steve was an amazing servant with such a HUGE heart and God did so much through him in the short time he had and we miss him so very much. You, Sheri, are an amazing mom with strength and wisdom and joy from God that inspires us ALL every day. We love you and are so thankful for your family!!

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